I am a BACP Accredited Counsellor and Psychotherapist in private practise in the Banstead, Surrey area. The practise is within easy reach of Banstead train station.
In my practice, I work with people who may be facing a wide range of issues and difficulties that they feel are preventing them from getting on with their lives. Some may be feeling low or depressed, or anxious about things they previously took in their stride. Others may be finding the stress of work, school, or family life difficult to cope with. Perhaps they are experiencing problems in their relationships with friends, partners or relatives, or feeling lonely, isolated and low on self-esteem. Changes in their lives may have left them feeling confused, helpless, or angry without really knowing why. They may feel lost, frightened, or 'out of control' following the ending of some stage of their life or the beginning of a new one.
For many, these feelings can be quite overwhelming at times: "I don't know what's happened to me", "I never used to be like this", "It's not like me", "I should be able to cope with this", "I don't know why I do these things, think these things, feel these things..."
Counselling allows clients the opportunity to talk through their feelings, to be listened to, and to find their way out and on to a fuller, more balanced and enjoyable life.
Counselling is a talking therapy which is there to support people while they give voice to their fears, hopes and anxieties. It enables clients to talk through their issues with a caring but uninvolved professional, where perhaps other sources of support, such as family or friends are too close or may be part of the problem. As such, clients may find it helpful to talk to a trained and experienced counsellor in a private confidential setting where it is possible to talk freely – without fear of being judged. That is not to say that counselling replaces family and friends.
My aim is not to give you advice, but to help you clearly identify what you wish to change and, by raising awareness of your own unique inner strengths and resources, help you to move forward productively.
People need to work at their own pace, therefore the length and regularity of sessions are negotiated, but usually last for 50 minutes on a regular weekly basis. Sometimes just a few sessions will be enough to clarify your situation; for some regular sessions over a period may be more appropriate.
Transpersonal means beyond the personal, or transcendence of attachment to the ego. The problems that transpersonal therapy can address are symptoms many of us face such as anxiety, depression, panic, phobias, relationship problems, addictions, weight management could all be seen to have a spiritual component which needs to be understood and addressed.
In transpersonal psychotherapy personal breakdowns and crisis are seen to have a useful purpose in that they act as a warning signal as well as indicating the way for us to change, grow and unfold. Transpersonal therapy is done in the context and knowledge of traditional therapy methods of counselling and psychotherapy.
It adds other techniques as well such as guided visualization, inner child healing, dream awareness, breathwork and meditation. Transpersonal therapy does not espouse a particular religious or spiritual view.
Rather it acknowledges the importance of developing inner resources as well as inner qualities upon a spiritual path. It offers approaches from various paths including Buddhism, Native American Spirituality and Shamanism.
It honours Carl Jung’s belief that healing and growth occur through experiences of mystical and transcendent consciousness.
Inner Child Healing is a deep and profound psychotherapeutic healing experience. It goes to the source of the problem and cuts through much of the intellectual chatter which prevents us from living our dreams. We connect and heal the inner child in order to become whole and feel joyful and loving. Inner Child Healing is generally done through a combination of traditional talk therapy, guided meditation, heart-centered talking therapy and breathwork. Inner child healing has roots in Jungian therapy as well as addiction recovery work, but is useful for many problems.
The inner child is the creative, spontaneous, loving, trusting, confident and spiritual part of us that may have gotten lost or learned to hide earlier in life due to feelings of fear and shame stemming from experiences of trauma and betrayal. This may have been due to abuse, mistreatment, misattunement or misunderstanding in childhood. It is a rare child who has adults around him or her all the time who are able to be fully present to his or her aliveness. As adults, we can return to childhood memories and ‘retrieve’ and heal that lost or hidden part of us to bring creativity, spontaneity, love, trust confidence and deep spirituality fully back into our lives.
As we move gradually through childhood and into adulthood, we face many disappointments in other people and in ourselves. Unless our feelings about these disappointments are acknowledged and validated, we unconsciously hold onto the disappointments and they inform our present approach to the world and to ourselves.
As I work with clients, I see them express sadness or anger about some present disappointment, and then I hear them attack themselves, dismissing their own feelings, minimising their own problems in relation to those of others, or rationalising how others are mistreating them. They are not compassionate with themselves as they might be with a good friend.
Also, clients may be blocked in their relationships or their life path, and the loss or wounding of this child part is the reason. Healing the child part can lead to profound changes in attitude and in actual life changes.
I usually try to trace back with clients the source of the feelings they are experiencing now. Many times they release grief and resentment from many years in the past, and find themselves finally free of the burden of carrying these old feelings.
Often clients are surprised when I explore the tendency to self-attack, as this attitude may feel so natural to them, that they had no idea that they have a choice to treat themselves otherwise. Sometimes the self-attacks are hard to give up because as children they took on the belief that indeed they and their feelings truly were without value.
These old belief systems were put into place when they were children. In this healing work we help release those old beliefs, and this allows room for a new understanding, and a new positive approach to themselves and the world.
It takes some intensive work to help clients let go of mistaken beliefs and self-attacking behaviour, but it is possible, and clients report long-standing depression and anxiety as well as physical symptoms resolving after doing the work.
As we let go of mistaken beliefs about ourselves, we can begin to love ourselves, and especially the naïve and trusting child part of us who was once hurt and wounded. As we heal, we can then also begin to love other more deeply. Clients who do this work suddenly find themselves reassessing relationships with partners and with their children, being able to be closer and to offer more caring to others and especially to themselves.
Initial Consultation of 1 hour and 15 minutes, £65
50 minute sessions £50
Concessions available on request